Archeparchy of Winnipeg

How Can I Make My Parish More Welcoming?

We are the people of God.

The term people of God is found in the Old and New Testaments and refers to a covenant between God and humanity. God promises salvation and in return the people promise their obedience. God said, “I will live in them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people” (2 Corinthians 6:16).

Pope Benedict XVI, in speaking of the Church as the people of God, said: “The Church, the people of God throughout the world, united in faith and love and empowered by the Spirit to bear witness to the risen Christ to the ends of the earth” (Farewell Ceremony, 23rd World Youth Day, Sydney, Australia, July 21, 2008).

Membership of the people of God comes not by physical birth but by faith in Christ and baptism.

We are the people of God.

To make my parish more welcoming, we must first be convinced that, as the people of God, we are called to welcome others into the Church, to introduce them one person at a time to Christ, and to walk with them on their journey of faith. This task is not the sole responsibility of the priest but belongs to all of us, lay women and men, religious, monastics and clergy alike.

It’s up to me to make a difference in my parish as to how strangers are welcomed.

I was a stranger and you welcomed me.


028_28A Way of Life

Hospitality is a way of life and not a task. The following strategies will help us cultivate hospitality over a lifetime:

  • Creating an effective hospitality committee. Create a Hospitality Committee within each parish consisting of parish members who are excited about the practice of hospitality within the parish and are committed to its renewal. Develop a training seminar to help them and others understand why welcoming visitors and strangers matters. But remind all parishioners that they have an important role in the ministry of welcome.
  • Being welcoming of one another. Be more welcoming of one another within the existing parish community. It takes work and effort to create an internal welcoming spirit. The natural human tendency is to form cliques or circles of friends that are not always open or inviting to others. Every parish member must consciously take on the role of being a host, not a guest.
  • The Greeter. Train greeters to welcome parishioners and guests to the church. Greeters are the people who stand faithfully at the doors to the church, hand out bulletins, and show people to their seats. When people come to church, it is important that they feel at home, part of the parish family. Greeters can make guests feel particularly at home.
  • Paying attention to the stranger and guest. Pay attention to the stranger and the guest. Be aware of the tendency to greet the same people each and every Sunday. Be on the look out for new people coming to church, smile, and welcome them into the community. Make them feel at home when they have mustered enough courage to come to church, and further en-courage them and give them courage to come again. Challenge yourself to greet one new person each Sunday.
  • Making the church available for prayer. Consider having the church open for prayer during the day at set times. An unlocked door is a personal invitation for people to enter and to pray. It is also a silent witness to the fact that this church, this parish, is open to all and invites everyone to enter into the presence of Christ and to encounter him in the silence of the church’s sacred space.
  • Restore the kiss of peace at the celebration of the Divine Liturgy. The kiss of peace is a traditional Christian greeting dating to early Christianity. The greeting with a kiss was also the custom practiced by Jesus. Such a kiss is mentioned five times in the New Testament: Romans 16:16, 1 Corinthians 16:20, 2 Corinthians 13:12, 1 Thessalonians 5:26, 1 Peter 5:14. “Greet one another with a holy kiss.” This is a sign of peace among the faithful, love in action, and a powerful gesture of welcome towards strangers and guests.
  • Coffee hour after the Divine Liturgy. Personally invite newcomers to the parish centre for coffee, tea or juice and sweets after the Divine Liturgy. It is a wonderful sign of hospitality, makes them feel welcome and provides an opportunity to get to know each other better. And don’t forget to provide something special for the little ones. If at all possible, continue the coffee hour in the summer when those vacationing from out of town may be visiting the parish.
  • The community table and fellowship. Another step is the community meal and social events. Parish communities, just like families, need to eat together to sustain their identity as a community. Not only is the table central to the practice of hospitality in the home but also in the church. The community table in the church hall and fellowship meals and gatherings are an important extension of the Lord’s Table and the festive celebration of the Divine Liturgy. Such gatherings provide opportunities to sustain existing relationships and build new ones. Individual parishioners may choose to sponsor the meal cost for newcomers and guests.
  • Offering hospitality to visitors, travellers, immigrants, refugees and to the homeless. Another step in the renewal of hospitality is to be more friendly and welcoming to believers and nonbelievers, to travellers, strangers and immigrants, to be willing and ready to provide travellers and homeless with food, shelter and protection.
  • Evaluate your parish as a welcoming place. Don’t be afraid to offer helpful suggestions to the pastor and others as to how your parish can become a more welcoming parish. Rate your parish’s level of hospitality by sharing ideas based on your own experience or from things you’ve seen and liked at another parish. For example, are the grounds tidy? Is there good signage as to Divine Liturgy times and how to contact the parish? Does the parish have a website? How are families with young children, the elderly, the disabled welcomed? Are welcome packs of information provided? Are newcomers contacted after their first visit to the church?
  • Personal invitation. Personally invite someone new to the parish. A friend. A neighbour. A family member. Someone you know who used to attend church but for whatever reason doesn’t any more. The best invitation is a personal invitation. Remember, Jesus invited others to follow him, one person at a time. But don’t just invite them once. Extend your invitation over and over again. And once they start coming to church, continue to mentor them, show them around, introduce them to others, share your faith journey with them, teach them, explain things to them, invite them for coffee. Make a commitment to journey with them for a full year. This is evangelization in action. Introduce them to your best friend, Jesus Christ. And watch him perform miracles in their lives. And you would have been part of it. Your parish membership will have doubled. Now put that on your resumé for when you meet the Lord face to face.

28kiss2Building Up the Kingdom of God

The ministry of welcome belongs to all of us. Young. Old. Male. Female. Parishioner. Stranger. Guest.

We are all members of the one body of Christ. He teaches, “For as in one body we have many members, and not all the members have the same function, so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually we are members one of another.

“We have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us: prophecy, in proportion to faith; ministry, in ministering; the teacher, in teaching; the exhorter, in exhortation; the giver, in generosity; the leader, in diligence; the compassionate, in cheerfulness” (Roman 12:4-8).

Christ needs each of us to use our gifts to build up the Church, the Kingdom of God.

Let us do our part in making our parishes more welcoming, in welcoming the stranger in our midst. And then let God use also the gifts of the newly welcomed to transform this world into a better place, a place where hope and love abound.

I was a stranger and you welcomed me.


A Case Study

Consider the following story by way of a personal reflection – alone or together with your family – in responding to the needs of strangers, showing them hospitality, making them welcome. WWJD? What Would Jesus Do? WWYD? What Would You Do?


Saint John Chrysostom – “Do you wish to honour the body of Christ?”

“Do not ignore him when he is naked. Do not pay him homage in the temple clad in silk, only then to neglect him outside where he is cold and ill-clad. He who said ‘This is my body’ is the same who said: ‘You saw me hungry and you gave me no food’, and ‘Whatever you did to the least of my brothers you did also to me’ … What good is it if the Eucharistic table is overloaded with golden chalices when you brother is dying of hunger. Start by satisfying his hunger and then with what is left you may adorn the altar as well.

“Will you have a golden cup made but not give a cup of water? What use is it to adorn the altar with cloth of gold hangings and deny Christ a coat for his back! What would that profit you? Tell me: if you saw someone starving and refused to give him any food but instead spent your money on adorning the altar with gold, would he thank you? Would he not rather be outraged? Or if you saw someone in rags and stiff with cold and then did not give him clothing but set up golden columns in his honour, would he not say he was being made a fool of and insulted. Consider that Christ is that tramp who comes in need of a night’s lodging. You turn him away and then start laying rugs on the floor, draping the walls, hanging lamps on silver chains on the columns. Meanwhile the tramp is locked up in prison, and you never give him a glance.

“Well, again, I am not condemning munificence in these matters. Make your house beautiful by all means but also look after the poor, or rather look after the poor first. No one was ever condemned for not adorning his house, but those who neglect the poor were threatened with hellfire for all eternity and a life of torment with devils. Adorn your house if you will, but do not forget your brother in dress. He is a temple of infinitely greater value” (Homily on the Gospel of Matthew).


Questions for Further Reflection

  • How have I viewed hospitality – as a task or a way of life?
  • Have I welcomed a stranger at home, at church, or at work?
  • Do I reach out to others in my parish community?
  • How do I assist my parish community in outreach to strangers, visitors, immigrants, and strangers?
  • Am I ready to provide travellers and the homeless with food, shelter, and protection?
  • How can I make my parish community a more welcoming place?


For Further Reading

  • Finding Christ Within (Irma Zaleski)
  • Sobornost: Experiencing Unity of Mind, Heart and Soul (Catherine Doherty)
  • The Gospel Without Compromise (Catherine Doherty)
  • A Guide for the Domestic Church (Diocese of Newton)
  • Behold the Beauty of the Lord (Henri Nouwen)
  • Saints As They Really Are: Voices of Holiness in Our Time (Michael Plekon

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